The Healing Power of Grief

Gloria Lintermans and Marilyn Stoltzman
Champion Press LTD (2006)
ISBN 1932783482
Reviewed by Susan Pettrone for Reader Views (9/06)

It is a fact of life for everyone that, at one time or another, we will lose someone close to us. We cannot bypass this experience nor can someone take the pain from us, but we can learn more through the author’s personal story of how we can make this heart-wrenching journey a little less confusing and how we can come to terms with this reality of life…namely death.

Author Gloria Lintermans opens her heart and her story of the death of her husband Rick within this book, and it is the story of 24 months of healing she experienced, that brings to the reader, a new insight into losing a loved one and how to go on living without them.  Though loosely based on the “stages of grief” by Elizabeth Kubler Ross, this book takes us in a new direction with grief.  It explains through the author’s personal experience, how there are five “time sequences of death” and how each of these fit within the timeframe of healing.  Shock, Denial, Anger, Depression, and Integration-Adjustment-Transition are all addressed within this book with questions, suggestions and “do’s and don’ts” within each sequence, well thought out and written in a manner that is easily read and understood.  The simple, down-to-earth language and the experiences of the author, make this a book that reaches readers from all walks of life and a wide range of ages as well.  From teens on up, this book could easily fill a need within many persons, needing help to deal with loss.

As I have gotten older, I have had to face the deaths of many close to me, as most my age have.  Not having any idea of what was to come, I was often lost in a sea of my own grief, wishing someone would throw me a lifeline.  I didn’t have such a book as “The Healing Power of Grief,” but I can see how it would have been exactly what I needed to get me through those confusing, grief-filled days.  The honesty, the personal insight and the workbook included within this book, are amazing and exactly what is needed for many who are grieving.  Not only does it address issues we may not realize were there, but “The Healing Power of Grief” helps the reader through the long process to growth and insight into our grief.   It helps us see where we were and where we have come, and through this journey we see hope and comfort through the healing that eventually comes as time goes on.  The mere writing of one’s thoughts and feelings is not only a healing process but a way to remember our loss in a positive way.  Through the simple process of writing, we can begin the long, solitary process of living without our loved one as well as living with our grief.  I would sincerely recommend this book to anyone dealing with grief in their lives and wanting to learn how to grow through their grief.  It is a wonderful book and one I intend to keep should that time again arise that I need the advice within its covers.

I would highly recommend “The Healing Power of Grief” to anyone who is experiencing the death of someone dear.  It is a straightforward, simply-put book that puts into clear perspective, the time process of grief and how the heart can heal despite our loss.  It is one I would not only use myself should the time arise, but one that I would readily purchase for a friend in need as well.  It is a book that is worth reading and worth using as well.

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