Relationship Agreement: A Contract for Lovers

Herman Franck, Esq.
iUniverse (2004)
ISBN 9780595307289
Reviewed by Paige Lovitt for Reader Views (07/10)


“Relationship Agreement: A Contract for Lovers,” is penned in a format in which both parties involved are able to discuss relationship codes of conduct, write in the consequences of violation, and sign an agreement showing that they understand and agree to abide by the terms.  It is written in a concise, easy-to-understand format, by an attorney, Herman Franck.  Franck manages to cover practically every possible issue that can arise in a relationship regarding how two individuals should conduct themselves. It is not about the typical legal issues that arise in relationships such as regarding division of property or support in the event of a breakup.

I found this book so easy to read, and was very impressed with the wide range of topics that were covered.  These ranged from dividing household chores to dealing with exes. I seriously could not think of anything that was left out.  While he stresses that adherence to the codes of conduct are vital, the book also contains touches of humor that make it very user friendly.  I think that these touches will help lighten the mood allowing couples to discuss heartfelt issues without getting tense and angry. 

In the discussion of violence, the author makes it very clear what will happen to the people involved through the legal system, should an act occur.  There is no room for humor here, and it is very obvious that he is serious about making sure that the repercussions are known.  Other areas that I found to be important also include dealing with friends and family members.

It is my personal opinion that many people enter into relationships with blinders on.  I have experienced this myself.  We are so caught up in being with this person that initially we don’t discuss with real issues that can come up further on down the road.  And when they do arise, if we aren’t good about speaking up for ourselves, the other person can use excuses, like, “I didn’t know this would bother you.”  This book makes both parties aware of and able to discuss how they might feel when dealing these issues. This is why I think that this book is an excellent resource for couples.  It lays everything out, including the consequences which are agreed upon by the couple, and it allows topics to be discussed that might not have previously been considered, such as dealing with exes.  The appendices offer suggestions and further advice that can be used when filling out the agreement. 

On a very positive note, I found myself willing to sign and abide by each section covered.  I was also grateful that I am not dealing with many of the issues discussed, except for the division of household chores part.  But I can live with that!  “Relationship Agreement: A Contract for Lovers,” definitely helped me to feel more confident about my relationship.  I highly recommend this book for everyone, but especially people entering into new relationships or for people who would like to hang on to the one that they have, but need some help. 

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