Sex Secrets of an American Geisha

Kim Conant
Hunter House (2006)
ISBN 0897934903
Reviewed by Paige Lovitt for Reader Views (7/06)

When I saw the title of this book, I could not wait to get my hands on it!  I was not disappointed.  Conant offers practical relationship advice, for both those wanting a relationship and those who want to bring back a spark to one that they already have.


She delivers her information in the style of an older sister, as the geishas do in Japan when the Geisha takes on a “maiko” which is a geisha apprentice, also seen as a younger sister.  As I read this book, it felt like the author and I were sitting down and having tea while we were discussing these things.  Conant imparts the feeling that she really cares about you, as the reader, having a successful relationship on all levels, including emotional and sexual.  She wants you to learn from the eight years that she wasted in two bad relationships so that you don’t have to experience them for yourself. She also gives you hope because she is in an awesome relationship right now.  I wish I had read “Sex Secrets” years ago; it would have saved me some grief!

A lot of the advice in “Sex Secrets’ might seem old fashioned and push some feminist buttons.  Guess what?  She addresses this issue and I totally agree with her ideas. She wants us to be feminists in the work world and a “feminine-ist” at home in the bedroom. This means that you value and operate out of your femininess while you are at home with your man.  I love this idea.  I love being a woman and feel that this part of myself should be celebrated.  If a man wants to hang out with someone that is “one of the guys,” he should just hang out with guys.  What draws a man in and captures his attention is our differences. 

Conant offers advice on looking good and maintaining your ideal weight.  Some women might be offended by this, but ladies, lets be realistic, our looks are what initially captures a man’s attention.  Maintaining your looks also helps you to feel more sensual.  It is a great feeling when you know that you can be proud of yourself and how you carry yourself.  Feeling good about yourself also helps your sex life.  Conant goes into great depth about how to have a great sex life, and a lot of that has to do with getting to know your body and what gives you pleasure.  She also offers a lot of advice on how to give him pleasure.

One of the biggest things that I like about “Sex Secrets” is that it is not about how to get just any man.  It is about how to get the right man.  This is man that has great values, integrity and will want to love and cherish you for the rest of your life.  This is the man that you will want to read this book for, even if you haven’t me him yet. When you do meet him, Lord help him, he is going to be a very happy man!

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