How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved

Sandra L. Brown, M.A.
Hunter House (2005)
ISBN 0897934474
Reviewed by GeorgeAnne Smith for Reader Views (10/06)

I think we all know a woman who seems never to meet, and get involved with, a man who isn’t abusive. They tolerate being neglected, or worse, verbally and physically abused, time after time, by the men in their lives.

Making these bad relationship choices doesn’t discriminate. It touches women of all ages, cultures, socioeconomic backgrounds, and all educational levels.  In “How to Spot a Dangerous Man before You Get Involved,” author Sandra L. Brown gives the readers a detailed description of eight types of men who may be dangerous to women. She explains how some TV shows, and movies have taught women to glamorize romances between the "bad boys" (dangerous men), and the ladies in their lives. She also explains why some women fail to see the warning signs of a dangerous man. These red flags are often ignored because of unspoken rules of society, assigned gender roles, family tradition, and even the woman’s own history of abuse or mental illness issues.

“How to Spot a Dangerous Man” provides the readers with tools needed to sense and respond to your own red flags, look at past experiences and learn from them, be truthful to yourself, and develop the ability to consciously make better choices when it comes to relationships. You’ll discover why you choose these men, how your own behavior can be self-sabotaging, why you ignore the read flag warnings, and the steps you can take to protect yourself by setting boundaries.

Every chapter includes true stories about women who tell of their successes, and failures of trying to change the way they choose men for dating/relationships. It’s most helpful to obtain a copy of “Survival Guide for Women Workbook,” a companion book to “How to Spot a Dangerous Man before You Get Involved.” In the workbook, you’ll assess your risk level, take stock of your dating history, and learn to put to use your critical-thinking skills when you consider becoming involved in a relationship.

For any woman on the threshold of dating, or one who has in the past made poor relationship choices, these two books are invaluable resources. I believe author Sandra L. Brown’s insightful advice and warnings, could protect you from heartache, keep you safe, and possibly save your life. Reading these books will have you making better choices today.

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