Life after Your Lover Walks Out

Lynda Bevan
Loving Healing Press (2006)
ISBN 9781932690262
Reviewed by Mary Greenwood for Reader Views (9/06)

“Life after Your Lover Walks Out” is a well-written book focusing on the emotional and practical issues that arise when your lover moves on.  The author, Lynda Bevan, has over twenty-two years of service in the Mental Health field in the UK. Her marital/relationship counseling and her own personal experiences have given her the expertise and strategies needed to write a good book on coping with life after one’s lover walks out.

“Life after Your Lover Walks Out” is designed to be read in less than two hours so that the reader can quickly see the options on how to handle each Step on the way to emotional recovery.  “Life after Your Lover Walks Out” identifies the thoughts and feelings that emerge during this difficult time and provides suggestions and ideas on how to cope. There are ten chapters or steps from Step 1: Falling Apart/Shock, and Step 2: Why is this happening to me? to Step 9: Look to the Future, and Step 10: The New You. There is also a bibliography which includes books by Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, The Dali Lama and James Redfield.

Bevan writes with empathy for the reader. You can tell that she writes from personal experience as she acknowledges the various emotions and thoughts someone feels when a loved one leaves.  She gives very practical and sometimes humorous advice, too. For example, in the Grieving Process Step, she has a list of things not to do which include: 1) “Don’t do a Bridget Jones and slob out in front of a weepy film” and 2) “Don’t replace a relationship by eating lost of food (comfort food).”  Bevan anticipates the negative thoughts of the reader and suggests alternatives on how to get through this experience a happier person.

Lynda Bevan’s approach is very personal; she is like your best friend who does not judge you and nudges you to go to the next step in your life and recovery. She understands what the readers are going through and wishes the best for them.  I highly recommend “Life after A Lover Walks Out” to anyone going through a major relationship upheaval.  

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