What Makes A Man Feel Loved?: Understanding What Your Husband Really Wants

Bob Barnes
Harvest House (2006)
ISBN 0736912053
Reviewed by Debra Gaynor for Reader Views (3/07)

“God created men and women so that they would complement each other.” “Men and women alike have strayed from God’s design for marriage, and as a result, are at odds with their mates.” Bob Barnes addresses many issues in his book, “What Makes A Man Feel Loved?”

Society has fostered lies on women:
“You can have it all.
Men and women are fundamentally the same.
Desirability is enhanced by accomplishment.
Your full potential must be realized.
Men and women view sex in the same way.
Motherhood can be postponed without penalty.
Today’s women should abandon ‘softness’ for ‘assertiveness.’
Speaking one’s mind is better than listening.
A woman should be self-sufficient.
A woman should look for sensitivity, not strength in a man.”

Many people get married thinking they can change their spouse. That’s not true. “Remember ladies you are married to a sinner, and so is he. – Elisabeth Elliot”

Barnes uses scripture to back up his beliefs. “It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18.

We all need to feel needed. Men love to hear that their spouse needs them. “I need your help…. reinforces your husband’s masculinity.”

“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor. For, if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one who falls when there is not another to lift him up.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10.” Paul tells us to bear the burdens of one another.

“What Makes a Man Feel Loved” by Bob Barnes is an excellent book. I agree with him that lies are being promoted in our society, lies that are tearing down the institution of marriage. Mr. Barnes uses common sense and scripture to back up his statements. I particularly enjoyed the suggestions for making your husband feel loved and I intend to try several. They are uncomplicated suggestions: bring him a glass of iced tea when he is working in the yard, plan his favorite meal, buy a fancy piece of lingerie and wear it for him. Mr. Barnes points out something very important, we need to take time for each other and do things together: sports, chores and hobbies. Tell him he’s a hero. My husband is my hero. I would be so lost without him. This book is a tribute to men that love their wives and treat them with respect. This book shows women how to do the same. Well done Bob Barnes! It is with great honor that I recommend “What Makes a Man Feel Loved” to all married and unmarried women.

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